People say “all good things must come to an end,” and since you’re reading to learn more on the subject, then there’s no doubt that your relationship is no exception to the rule right now. Time all but stands still as you try to determine exactly what went wrong, and perhaps more importantly, where your life is going and what you should do next. “Is the relationship truly at its end” you wonder? On top of that, right there in the back of your mind, you feel as though all of the circumstances leading up to the end of your relationship were simply misunderstandings or mistakes, and that the two of you should give it another chance. Feeling like the spark could still be there, it’s no wonder you are also asking yourself “how do I get him back if my ex boyfriend is ignoring me?”
Being ignored by your ex boyfriend is actually commonplace directly after a break up. Put simply, he is most likely ignoring you if for no other intention than to avoid facing you. The simple matter of fact here is that his avoiding your calls and attempts to make any contact with him tend to leave little doubt in your head that he even cares about you at all at this point. However, that isn’t necessarily true at all. Instead, it is the very fact that he does still have lingering, deep feelings for you that he finds it challenging now to be in contact with you at all.
I know. It doesn’t seem to make much sense to you right now, but I didn’t say love, let alone a break up, was easy to understand. To help you better understand and get him to open up to you, on the other hand, I encourage you to read through and try the following helpful tips:
Ignore Him Right Back
I can safely say that in some of my own past relationships whenever things got a little “rocky,” if the woman stopped talking to me, then I practically pulled my hair out in frustration trying to figure out why I was being avoided. I would soon find myself compelled to get to the bottom of what she’s up to and be forced to contact her more and more. With this idea in mind, if you’ve tried contacting him often and in a multitude of ways with no luck, then maybe it’s time you try the opposite and give him a little dose of his own treatment.
Get His Attention With A “New” You
If your ex boyfriend is ignoring you, but he still sees you at school, work, or other places from time to time, then a great way to get his attention is to improve you appearance wherever possible. Often times, when you are in a relationship for awhile, you begin to care a bit less about how you look and dress simply because you don’t feel like you need to impress anyone any more. You’ve made your “catch,” so you might have thought it to be less important to keep looking your best every single day.
Even if you don’t feel that this is the case for you, then you may still have had areas of your appearance that you may have wanted to improve even before the break up. If so, then now would be an excellent time to do so. Maybe you’ve been wearing glasses for years and have thought about giving contact lenses or even lasik a try. Or, perhaps you’ve been wanting to start working out more often. Anything that you can do, big or small, that will be a noticeable improvement to your ex boyfriend can work wonders for regaining his attention.
Don’t Be Afraid To Date
Though it may be the last thing on your mind right now, dating new guys can really bring your ex boyfriend around if he has been ignoring you. Word does get around, and since he’s been used to having you wrapped around his little finger, you were “his girl,” he’ll find it quite difficult to keep his distance if it looks like he’s being replaced. You’d be hard-pressed to find a more effective method of getting his attention.
So, remember, if you find yourself confused and saying to yourself “my ex boyfriend ignores me,” concentrate less on the remote possibility that he simply doesn’t care about you any more on the distinct probability that he actually does still care very much for you. Instead, he’s dealing with the break up the only way he knows how even if it does seem (and probably is) quite childish of him to ignore you completely. Utilize some of the tips that I have provided, and you might just be surprised at how quickly he comes around.